Passenger View

Taking control of my life landed me in the passenger seat of a RV on an amazing road trip. It was so fun in many ways, I have been the driver for the last 20 years on all family road trips, I love driving but it makes it hard to enjoy the scenery. I’m fascinated driving places I’ve never been and looking at the houses, stores, yards, I love to wonder about the people who live there. I soaked up every mile of being in the passenger seat. Thats not to say I didn’t enjoy learning how to drive the RV down the freeway at 75 miles per hour in the dark lol, I enjoyed it all.

My boyfriend and I decided to take a road trip over Christmas break when neither of us had our kids. He found an amazing deal on a RV that needed to get from Las Vegas to Phoenix the same week we were traveling and so we took it!

I’ve never actually traveled in a RV before, I’ve spent the night camping in a camper in my grandparents back yard so this whole experience was new. The bed was less then comfortable, the shower was about 2 feet too small for my companion to fit in and it had a tendency to turn off the heat around 4:30 every morning until we could find which fuse needed to be pulled and reinserted. Let me tell you when it’s 10 degrees outside the RV doesn’t hold on to any warmth for long.

And I loved it. Watching the scenery change from Vegas to the mountains to the grandeur of Zion National Park, and then beyond it to Lake Powell and the Grand Canyon and finally Phoenix was so beautiful. I was quiet and contemplative watching the journey and I hope that didn’t make me a boring travel buddy. I took over 600 photos on my iPhone lol and I was told I should probably be more discriminating with my pictures but I wanted to capture every tiny detail of the beauty.

I definitely love where this road is taking me.

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Music for the Soul

Some of the advice I’ve gotten about dealing with divorce,  didn’t make sense at the time but then one day a light bulb goes off and I see what they were saying. My brother told me to not watch romantic movies, or listen to love songs, especially if they are sad love songs. Some days I am fine with all of those, and others I completely see what he was talking about.

There is a song by Brandi Carlile that I love. I love the words and it doesn’t make me sad to listen to it, I think she is singing about the kind of love that I aspire to, someone who knows me and my stories (plus it’s super fun to sing really loud in my car),

All of these lines across my face
Tell you the story of who I am
So many stories of where I’ve been
And how I got to where I am
But these stories don’t mean anything
When you’ve got no one to tell them to
It’s true… I was made for you

I climbed across the mountain tops
Swam all across the ocean blue
I crossed all the lines and I broke all the rules
But baby I broke them all for you
Because even when I was flat broke
You made me feel like a million bucks
You do and I was made for you

You see the smile that’s on my mouth
It’s hiding the words that don’t come out
And all of my friends who think that I’m blessed
They don’t know my head is a mess
No, they don’t know who I really am
And they don’t know what I’ve been through like you do
And I was made for you…

All of these lines across my face
Tell you the story of who I am
So many stories of where I’ve been
And how I got to where I am
But these stories don’t mean anything
When you’ve got no one to tell them to
It’s true… I was made for you

Oh yeah, well it’s true… that
I was made for you…

I love having theme songs, for the day or the month, music that I can play and know I will feel better after. One of my favorites to blast right now is by The Struts, Everybody Wants. Kind of a loud rocker song but the words do something for me right now. Music does things for the soul and mood that nothing else can.

Do you have a favorite go to song or anthem??

Gratitude

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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home and a stranger into a friend” Melody Beattie

Today is the last day of November, the month we typically associate with gratitude so I need to throw mine out there. My first Thanksgiving post divorce, without my kids was so amazing. How many people can say that? I made my kids a lovely dinner the last night I had them for the week and we celebrated being together, and I wasn’t sure how to feel when I said goodbye.

I can’t seem to put my thoughts into words this morning but I am determined to try. I saw a post on Instagram that said it best,

“I am thankful for nights that turned into mornings, friends that turned into family, and dreams that turned into reality”.

A stranger at work asked me out after knowing me for a day, I had turned down most everyone when they asked me out, thinking it was too soon or it didn’t feel quite right. But this time it clicked, our conversation was easy and fun, so I said yes. And so far it has been so much more then I ever could have imagined. I now have someone to talk to about everything, who can back me up when I think something is wrong, but can also point out the other side when I need to hear it. Can I say enough about the value of human touch? A hand to hold, a really long hug that allows you to breathe again?

We spent the holiday hiking with his daughter and it was so beautiful and fun. It was one more thing right about this new “us”. To find someone willing to hike on Thanksgiving and Black Friday lol, thats a gift too! Someone who laughs at me when I’m taking a selfie but also reminds me when I’m about to miss an opportunity for a good one!

So maybe I can’t write a elegant post about it, but I can say thank you to the universe for my friend who is now more, and everything included with him.